Family

Family is an essential part of life. 

You may be arguing my point already but let me explain!

In my head, my family was the cause of my problems but also ended up being the solution as well. I had deep imbedded feelings that really caused me grief and sadness. I was angry with members of my family. I felt that they had wronged me, and they could never make up for it. I felt that they had done things that hurt me that could not be healed. I was so broken with these thoughts. Hating my family, the people around me most, was awful. I felt awful. I felt like I was so alone and isolated all because I was angry. At this point i had to make a decision, be miserable while "giving them what they deserve" or work through my problems.

This was a long road to getting better. it started super rocky and still filled with anger. Not very effectively I shared my feelings with my dad, sister, and mom. At first some of the messages I was sending did not come across well but as time went on, things got clearer and clearer and I got the apologizies I wanted and needed.

NOW, I am on good terms with both parents and my sister and it feels great. I have many more resources and people to talk to. I feel a lot more love and acceptance. I am better able to stay afloat and accomplish things.

I know you are probably saying, “well that’s just you, my family isn’t important to me”. Trust me they are. There are so many studies that have been done that show that family involvement, relationships, and support is a key factor in mental health.  I do understand however that it takes a toll on those that are the support system. It can be stressful and deeply affect the members of the family but with the help of the family, everything is possible It gives everyone a sense of being a part of something bigger than themselves, a sense of belonging, a sense of home, and a multitude or recourses.

When a family goes through hard times, they can be brought together and form stronger bonds than ever before.