How you can help someone with Depression and Anxiety

People with mental health issues or depression and anxiety usually have people around them that love them and care about them. These people around them are essential to their health and honestly survival. When someone with depression and anxiety feels alone, they could then end up feeling like if they died no one would care or be affected. This is a very difficult thing for people to wrap their head around. Sometimes people need someone else to live for while they learn how to live for themselves. These people can be hard to love as well because they push people away. They say they want to be alone. All they are thinking is that they need to protect you from them and it would be easier and better for you if your life was without them. Although this makes them alone even more, they aren't affecting other people's lives and hindering them. The worst feeling is when you ruin plans, a happy day, or someone else's day because of a depressive episode or an anxiety attack. I have done this so many times. I have ruined my own day, and others days. When I feel good and normal, I am a happy, outgoing, talkative person. When my anxiety shows up, it makes me close up, be quiet and tense up. I am very unapproachable when I get like this. A lot of times I feel as if no one wants to be around me. I apologize often for these times and I feel so guilty for them. With my boyfriend, there have been times that we plan on doing something super fun together with or without others and I have either freaked out or had an anxiety attack or both. These times are so very hard and I know for the person with me it is super hard as well. When I get like this, sometimes I walk away to not affect anyone but what I really need is someone to stop me and tell me they aren't going anywhere and they want to help and be by my side. What I need is someone to hold me and tell me it's all going to be ok. I need them to let me cry it out for a little and then talk to me. I need to feel important and not like a burden. I need to be told that and shown that someone cares. Sometimes I need to let it all out and just cry, but not be alone. Then when I calm down, I need someone there. When I have anxiety attacks, I need to be squeezed and be reminded to breathe.  The most important thing when someone you know and love has anxiety is to not leave them when they aren't ok. They NEED you! When things are good, you can ask them specifically what you can do for them. At the start, they may not know exactly what they need. Just hold them and be there. Having someone that listens is such an important part of being able to handle everything. BEing a

Moving forward

There has been a lot going on the past few weeks. I just finished the second week of the term and it was crazy. I am still working to get a good schedule and get my homework down. There is a lot of reading and little assignments that are easy to forget. The first week Kendrick, my boyfriend, wasn't here and I really expected to have multiple anxiety attacks and to cry pretty much every day, but I didn't. It was the greatest thing! The reason I was able to survive some really hard times is that I was introduced to a holistic (natural) product that helps with mental health. It is an amazing product that has a focus on mental health. There are so many people in this world that struggle with mental health issues and everyone suffers some sort of depression or anxiety. My boyfriend is taking the fundamentals (the basic product of the company) and he does not have any major mental health problems but he knows that he could still use the health benefits and the help for his gut-brain axis. Now you are probably asking, "what the heck is the gut-brain axis?" Well, I am so glad you asked!!! The Gut-Brain axis, in simple terms, is the connection of between your brain and gut. "so how does the gut and brain connect besides being in the same body?" Wow! You are asking the best questions! Let me tell you! You gut have millions of microbiomes that release a lot of the important hormones that make you feel good, Serotonin and Dopamine. These hormones are essential to our mental health.  When our gut is unhealthy, we unable to produce and release these hormones. So since taking this product, I am able to handle more stressful situations, be calmer in high emotion situations, and I don't jump to suicide as my only option. I am able to function more.
Now, this doesn't mean that I don't have bad or down days, things get rough, and I still react quite largely with my feelings. I am not 100% better. I am not saying that this is the product that fixes all. No.  But it is allowing me to work on things I couldn't even touch on before. I am able to battle demons that used to be overwhelming for me to even think about. I now can think about past events that normally would bring me an anxiety attack. Although I feel my anxiety and my heart races, it isn't as debilitating as it was before. I think that growing up I was not able to cope with certain things that created a negative foundation for the hard things that I experienced later. I am so happy that I found this product. I never thought I would be able to fight these wars and win.

This is my own personal experience. If you have found other things that help, please do share. Please don't hold back comments and questions!